The one thing that links all of my favorite blogs isn’t content, or even style, exactly. It’s truth. I like reading blogs the same way that I like walking by houses in the dark and glancing through open windows and doors to catch a peek at the vignettes of life within. It makes me feel closer to humanity. It gives me proof that I’m not alone.
Blogs that only share happy thoughts bore me. They come off as fake, somehow. My favorites are the people who’re endeavoring to share a little piece of their soul with the Internet, people who are brave enough to be vulnerable. I don’t care if the blogs I’m reading tell deep, dark secrets, or if they’re just sharing bits and pieces from everyday existence. It’s really all the same to me. I want my friends to talk to me about the big bad shit as well as the minutiae. Tell me about the look in that guy’s eye as he cut you off in traffic, or about how you knocked over your water glass during a business lunch and it made you feel like a total ass, or about how dance class makes you weirdly gassy, or your struggles to quit eating so much chocolate. It’s not the information, it’s the intent that makes it so endearing.
For the most part, lately I like to read blog posts by people who’re wrestling with feeling useful. It helps me figure out how to say the things I know need to be said, the things I’ve yet to find the words for. With that in mind, I guess I’ll tell you something new about myself: I’ve found a therapist. It’s online counseling, which means I can “visit” with the therapist whenever I’d like to talk about all of the things that are going on in this old brainpan. I’m hoping that she can help me work out why I’m so anxious, and help me figure out ways to mitigate the stress I’m going through so I can start to live a better life. Guess we’ll see.
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I also like reading blogs because of the little vignettes we get of bloggers’ lives. I recently read this post: http://www.elisejoseph.com/home/2015/2/20/transparency, and it made me kind of sad that blogging has become so curated in the past few years. I like reading blogs better when I feel like I could be friends with the author, and can relate.
Thanks for sharing – I just fell down the rabbit hole for a bit, since her blog post referenced two other great blog posts. You hit the nail on the head with “curated”. I wish people would stop trying to impress others with their awesomeness and just admit that some days are a struggle. Thanks for dropping a note. It’s nice to know there are more of us out there.
I like posts that are actually costly for someone to put into the public realm. You’ve done one I believe. Not sure I have! Hey- nice one on the online therapist that’s a very good idea. How can I not have thought of that? I am off to have a chat with a hypnotherapist 10 minutes from now. But I should look into the online thing. Maybe I could get a los angeles based therapist to the stars or something?
That’s weird that you said that, b/c I just started listening to my guided meditation app at night again, and in the description the hypnotist is called out as providing therapy “to the stars”. But yeah, the site I’m using is http://www.betterhelp.com if you wanted to check it out. Good luck at your session!