Momma Tried – A Nudie Mag For The Rest Of Us

From the Earthly Delights editorial of Momma Tried, photographed by Daniel Ford

From the Earthly Delights editorial of Momma Tried, photographed by Daniel Ford

OK, so I lied. I’m not into nudie mags. But one of my best friends is publishing one, and despite my potentially damning lack of interest in explorations of sexuality (sorry Theo!), I can still see that this is going to be one of those amazing projects that everyone is going to fall in desperate love with immediately. So I thought I’d tell you guys about Momma Tried and encourage you to share it with your friends.

The magazine will be print only, and it’s chock-full of tasteful, high-quality artwork (paintings, photography, digital graphics, etc.) and interesting articles. The overall feel of the publication is intended to remind readers of the classic mid-century nudie mag, when there were tons of fun photos but also some meaty articles. This is a return to the days when a person could feel good about having a little printed porn stashed under their beds – you can show Momma Tried off as a great art-piece as well as bring it up in conversation while discussing items of literary merit.

Most important to our discussion, Momma Tried needs your help. Check out their Kickstarter page and please either donate or just pass this on to your friends!

For more on this awesome project, as told by my lovely and amazing friend/brain behind this project Theo Eliezer, read this article on NolaFemmes.

Tentative Schedule

  • 6:15am – Wake
  • 6:30am – Leave for Gym
  • 6:45am – Run 3 miles
  • 7:15am – Personal Trainer or Workout
  • 8:00am – Leave for Home
  • 8:15am – Breakfast / Shower
  • 8:40am – Get Ready
  • 9:15am – Work
  • 10:00am – Crunches (20) & Jump Rope (100)
  • 10:15am – Snack #1
  • 12:15pm – Lunch
  • 1:00pm – Work
  • 2:15pm – Snack #2
  • 3:15pm – Crunches (20) & Jump Rope (100)
  • 4:15pm – Snack #3
  • 6:15pm – Yoga
  • 7:30pm – Leave for Home
  • 7:45pm – Shower
  • 8:00pm – Dinner
  • 8:30pm – Read / Write / Work
  • 11pm – Bed

It sounds intense, but I’m pretty sure that if I’m going to lose the weight I want to lose, plus be as successful as I want to be at my career, I’m going to need to build a strict schedule and learn to live by it. My meals are going to have to be planned out and made over the weekend, possibly all at one time. It’s going to be boring for a little bit, but hopefully it will help me get my life under control. Going to start tomorrow – I’ll let you know how it goes.

 

The Ultimate Yogi

So I’m quitting Bikram.

I can hear the groans, grumbles, and overall confusion as it echoes about the blogosphere. I’ll give you a second to relax and focus.

Yes, I’m quitting Bikram…for awhile. Aside from the fact that my schedule is absolutely jam-packed at the moment, and I’m wasting about $100 a month to not make it to class for days on end, there’s the fact that it hurts me. Physically. I’ve been struggling with the fact for a year now, and I’m finally ready to give in to the realization that if I’m ever going to go back to Bikram, I’ve got to be a lot stronger and more supple.

That’s a weird thing to say, and you’re right to question it. But here’s how it is – my hips scream in pain throughout the entire Bikram class. Then they scream in pain for the rest of the day. Every time I move a leg (you try walking or sitting without moving one – go ahead, I’ll wait). Every time I try to bend over or kneel down. All night, every time I try to turn over, a pain that stabs so deeply it’s almost a paralytic. I have to lift up with my arms in order to skootch my butt over so I can turn to one side or the other. It affects everything. It affects my weight, my physical bearing, my sensuality.

True, not doing Bikram also hurts. Running also hurts. But Bikram irritates the pain much more. I kept going to class because I was told – and believed, quite deeply – that all of the stretching would eventually repair my problems. But something happened. I started going to my personal trainer, and stretching in new ways that are not practiced in Bikram. And guess what? The pain started to go away for days at a time…only returning after a Bikram class, or a long, strenuous run.

So I started to look for a different route. Less Bikram, more personal training, more stretching. And now a new yoga program. I started a program called The Ultimate Yogi yesterday. It’s 108 days of yoga every single day, with classes taught via DVD. It’s being called the P90X of yoga, and for good reason. It’s intense. It’s a game-changer. And after today’s class, I’m pretty sure it’s going to be the thing that finally heals me.

The plan is very simple: a different yoga class every day, followed by a special ab class every other day, and meditation daily, as well. Practitioners follow a special diet of very common sense choices like no sugars, flours, or processed foods, and also do a juice fast or raw cleanse every 36 days. At the end, you’re strong, flexible, and healthy from the inside out. What’s not to like?

Even better, today’s class was a focus on long periods of stretching, where a great deal of the work was in the hips, legs, and lower back. It hurt like hell in some of the poses, things that I very clearly remember doing with ease only a few years ago, before screwing myself up by running the Chicago Marathon in 2009. But even through the pain of stretching out muscles that were intensely wound and almost wooden, I could feel change happening in my joints. The intense, cold ache that normally fills my hips was replaced with warmth, and a general muscle ache that feels almost heavenly in comparison. I know I’ve got a long way to go, but I’m on the right path now, at least.

The Photo Shoot

Strangely enough, I have several friends who are professional photographers. One friend, Dave Rodrigue of DJR Studios, has been inviting me to do a photo shoot for a long time. After about a year of putting him off, I finally found the time to submit to his photographic whims yesterday – so very glad that I did!

He took bunches of pics of me, but is still going through them and making adjustments. Here’s the one I like most so far…

Anna, Leaning - by Dave Rodrigue

I’ll post more once he’s gone through them all. I’m really excited to see the rest!

Sweat is Fat Crying

Today marked about a month and a half since I started working out with Eric Capers at Pro Fitness Trainers,  which meant that it was time for another weigh in. I also checked my body fat percentage for the first time since starting the training program. Although I haven’t lost a pound, imagine my surprise when I found out that I’ve lost 4% body fat in a month and a half!!! I went from 31.30% body fat to 27.2% body fat, and couldn’t be happier.

I was feeling a little down about the lack of weight loss; now I’m feeling pretty pumped that my hard work has paid off anyway. Now it’s time to get a little more dedicated, but first I need a nap…

Here are before and after pics. Not a ton of difference, but starting to see changes!

Me on my first day of training, mid January 2013

Me on my first day of training, mid January 2013

Me on February 22, 2013, after about a month and a half of training.

Me on February 22, 2013, after about a month and a half of training.

 

Content, Content, Content

I just realized that “content” (n.) – the topics covered in a document, and “content” (n.) a state of satisfaction are easy for a reader to confuse if not provided enough context. So let’s be clear; my title means “topics covered in a document, topics covered in a document, topics covered in a document,” NOT “satisfaction, satisfaction, satisfaction.” Though I wish it were the other way around. It would definitely make for a better Thursday night, that’s for sure.

It’s 9:41pm on a Thursday night, and I’m feeling the pressure. At my day job, a big client needs a full website’s worth of copy AND a very long, very wordy brochure written, edited, and posted by the middle of next week at the very latest. One of my personal clients needs an e-blast written. Another needs several grants written. A third needs several blog posts, while the other just needs a job posting rewritten. As a result, I find myself in serious need of a glass of wine and a spot of vacation planning. To where, I honestly don’t give a damn, as long as it’s definitely far, far away from my cell phone and laptop. Maybe Siberia?

Actually, talking about vacations, I decided today that I’d really like to go to Nepal. Reason? They ride yaks. Look at this and tell me you aren’t intrigued.

YakwithSaddle yak-milk

 

So, what else is going on in my life other than work, you ask? Actually, we both know that you didn’t ask that because you knew I was just going to tell you anyway – let’s be honest, that’s the kind of horrible, non-stop talker I am – but whatevs. Hmmm. What have I been up to?

Well, there’s the personal training. I went twice this week, and will go again tomorrow. He really kicked my butt on Wednesday, too. I was feeling this odd burning pain sensation in my arms that went all the way down to my toes. Eric said that’s what happens when you start using muscles that you’ve never even discovered before. I’m starting to see muscle definition in my arms when I’m just hanging out and not trying to do any super cool flexing stuff. It’s crazy and amazing and I really want it to continue, but I’m going to have to get more dedicated. Tomorrow I’ve got a weigh in, and I already know that I haven’t lost any weight at all since starting this a month and a half ago. It’s OK, since obviously my fat percentage has to have gone down, but if I were working out five times a week and showing a tad more dedication, I’d also be seeing more weight loss.

Other than that, things are going well in my relationship arena with The Man, and our romance factor is looking a little better. We both owe each other more time and dedication in the romance realm, but both of us are concentrating on career and trying to pay off bills. I hope that we’ll both be able to cut back on work and pay more time to life sooner rather than later. For me it’s all about getting the CC bills paid off, then figuring out what I need to do to make the most amount of money in the most reasonable amount of time, doing only things I love. Sounds easy, right? Yeah, I know it sounds absolutely mad, but pretty sure I can make it work. I don’t intend to spend my whole life working just to work more. I intend to be walking to Santiago de Compostela within two years at the very maximum.

Resolutions 2013: Update #1

February will soon be coming to a close, so it seemed like a good idea to peek in on my New Year’s Resolutions and see if I’m still in line. Surprisingly, it looks like I’m actually doing pretty well, or at least staying on target. This, despite having a weird, lingering head cold for the last two weeks, plus living through Mardi Gras and Super Bowl madness.

Here’s what I said I’d be doing with my year…

1) Grow my personal freelance business. Back in January, I said, “I want to have a website, pricing structure, service list, and detailed portfolio put together by the end of February 2013…It would be great to be making at least $45k by the end of the year.” I’ve almost got the website set up, and am still working on the pricing structure and portfolio. I think I should have them done by the end of the month.

2) Expand my marketing prowess. I wanted to, “Become a member of the AMA. Sign up for a social media scheduling and analytics program like Sprout or something similar…Blog about marketing daily.” I’m not all there yet, but I have signed up for Sprout, and my company just won an ADDY Award. We’ll find out on Saturday what the award was for, and hopefully it was something to which I contributed my time and ideas…I’d love to have an advertising award under my belt!

3) Declare a new personal style. I opined, “It’s time for my clothes to reflect my place in the world. Stat.” I’m still getting there. I’ve decided that I’m going to give it one last major push at dropping a dress size before spending money on new clothes, but I’m still spending here and there to update the products I use to make myself presentable. I’ve been reading this awesome book called How to Look Expensive, and have been stocking up on recommended beauty buys that are slowly but surely turning me into a polished, glamourous girl. It’s pretty awesome that I’ve got the Kindle app on my iPhone, because every time I go shopping (Walmart, mostly) I flip through the book to see what products are recommended and see if I can buy one. I’m getting one product at a time, sticking with the least expensive buys, and then I’ll budget for the bigger purchases (I’d rather go cheap on my eyeliner and splurge on anti-wrinkle creams).

4) Start seeing a personal trainer! I’ve been seeing Eric Capers at Pro Fitness Trainers of New Orleans for about a month and a half now, and my arms are definitely seeing some difference. I’m not losing weight or seeing results as quickly as I should just because I’m not giving myself enough time to get to the gym and yoga like I should, plus I’ve been really sick all this week. That’s changing, though. Tomorrow I start back at the gym and it will be non-stop, no-holds-barred action.

5) Join a marching krewe/dance team. I haven’t joined a marching krewe yet, but I talked briefly with a friend of mine who marches with the Pussyfooters and said she thought she could get me in. Plus, Eric (the personal trainer) trains a Pussyfooter who might be able to get me in if my friend can’t. So it looks like a serious possibility! Now that Mardi Gras is officially over, I’ll get in contact with my friend in the next week or so and find out what my chances are – I’m ready to lace up my pink corset and shake it!

6) Read more. I’ve read a few books already this year, and since my goal is to read a couple a month, I’m doing OK. I still need to find time to dedicate to reading marketing materials, though. I guess it’s time to make a very detailed life schedule and stick to it (boring, but necessary, I guess).

7) Write more. Sucking at this one. What’s weird, though, is that I met a published fiction author the other day who invited me to come out and join his writers’ group. Hmmm…is the universe trying to tell me something?

8) Pay off my credit cards. Have I mentioned lately how much I rock? I paid off not one, but TWO, YES TWO, credit cards last week, and put a substantial amount of money into a third card. I still haven’t gotten paid out for those stocks yet, but as soon as that check comes in I’ll pay off a third card and then all I’ll have left is one more. I can’t imagine how much nicer it’s going to be to not have credit card debt! I’m never ever EVER putting purchases on a credit card again unless it’s a dire emergency.

9) Stop letting my relationships define who I am and how I act. Taking care of this nicely. It’s always an uphill battle…it’s strange to be so strong and yet so very weak, especially when the other people aren’t trying to control me at all – it’s all me, making up boxes that I have to then fit into.

10) Travel more! Buy a car! Run longer distances! Downsize my physical possessions! Excel at speaking to people about my professional capabilities! Learn to do something new! Make things! Take my cats to get their teeth cleaned! Go back to Pagan school and learn more!

I will! Could happen! Already happening (signed up for a 10k in March)! Just got rid of two boxes of crap today! Just worked on talking to people about marketing today! Not yet, but soon! Starting a once-a-month craft group with friends! Ooops, need to do this! Signed up, now to schedule it in!

 

Enter the Junior Dragon

2013ChineseNewYear

Happy Lunar New Year, everyone! 2013 is the Year of the Snake, also known as the Junior Dragon. The Snake is known for being polished and aristocratic, with a love of fine things. This year’s element is Water, so the Snake in question is the Water Snake, which affects preferred colors a tad – blues, greys, and bluish greens are most appropriate this year, as are Snake’s preferred tones of glittery golds and silvers. Snake is a go-getter, and this year is going to be good for racking up achievements, if we’re up to the task…which I believe I am.

I’m sorry I’ve been rather spotty in my writing as of late. It’s been a particularly difficult few months. My freelance business is going well, work-load wise, but not so well pay-wise (in comparison). I’ve got two clients who pay pretty well, and I did get a raise at my day job, but I’m also working for free for my personal trainer and getting rather stressed out in all at the amount of hours I work vs. how much money I make. Soon it will be time to seriously attack that imbalance and figure out how to fix it, but for right now I’m just trying to focus on the fact that I am not my job, and my debt does not have to dictate my life.

The first big accomplishment of the New Year (Gregorian and Chinese) just happened this morning, and it directly applies to my financial problems. I paid off a credit card (!!!!!), and am actually getting ready to pay off a second credit card tomorrow. Can you believe it? I’m having trouble believing it, but it’s sinking in that I’m finally getting closer to getting rid of the debt that I can comfortably attack (we’re just not going to think about student loan debt – ever). Hopefully I’ll be getting paid from some stocks that The Man and I are waiting to get bought out, and I’ll be able to pay off a third credit card, at which point I’ll only have one more to pay.

My plan moving forward is to put all resources toward paying down this debt, and pretty much refrain from spending on much else. My only two major areas of expenditure in this new period of my life are going to be food (going vegetarian again on Wednesday) and on beauty items – lotions, makeups, and other personal care things. I’ll wait on buying new clothes until I’ve at least got the third card paid off and have started paying down the last one. By then hopefully the vegan diet and lots and lots of gym going/personal training will make it possible for me to buy smaller sizes and make the purchases worthwhile. After I’m done paying the credit cards, I can save up for my next big goals – braces (again, ugh), Lasik, and my trip to Santiago de Compostela.

I’ve been reading this incredibly excellent book lately called How to Look Expensive, written by the beauty editor of Glamour magazine, Andrea Lustig. It’s full of simple but (for me) pretty earth-shattering tips on how to play up your best features and really take care of your appearance without breaking the bank. Best of all, she doesn’t just give basic tips – she gives the names of the best products to buy in every category. So far with the help of this book, I’ve started sleeping on satin pillows (to help my skin retain moisture), started using Burt’s Bees Radiance eye cream (which actually has worked to lessen my dark circles), picked up Burt’s Bees tinted lip balm (amazing! color AND moisture all the time!), and started using this cool tubing mascara from L’Oreal that gives my eyelashes incredible length and doesn’t smudge or smear at all. I’ve been using moisturizer twice a day, and also I just started using Furlesse strips at night for my frown line between my eyes. With all of these changes, my skin’s starting to look a little younger, which of course I love :-)

In other news, since this is turning into the longest blog post ever, I officially signed up for witch school today! I’ll be attending the Seasons of Avalon school starting a couple of days from now, and am thinking that since it’s something I’m passionate about, I’ll use it as a really great excuse to start waking up earlier every morning to get an hour of study time in. We’ll see!

Other things that are flitting through my pea brain today:

1) Documentaries – I didn’t watch enough of them during January, but it’s still my goal to watch them regularly. Started watching another one yesterday about burlesque, so I’ll keep up with my “Documentary Days” posts throughout the year, I guess.

2) Origami – a friend of mine recently started doing origami again, which makes me want to get back in the groove with creating pieces more regularly. I want to make things that I can sell or give away as gifts, so that’s going to be on my schedule in the next little while. Maybe earrings, or holiday ornaments? Not sure yet, but I’ll figure it out and let you know. Any ideas for me?

3) Travel – one of my best friends invited me to come along with her family on a trip to Seattle in the summer. I’m stoked!

4) Mardi Gras – today is Lundi Gras, and I’m really just worn out from the entire experience. I hadn’t realized how little I drink and go out now, and I’m really just not interested in hanging out in crowds. Don’t get me wrong – I still love costuming and celebration, but going out til 3 in the morning is really not my cup of tea anymore. I don’t want more than a couple of drinks (if that) and I don’t really like going out just to drink or go from bar to bar. I yearn for deep conversation, lots of laughs, and maybe some hijinks, but there’s really no one around to put me into that mood these days, other than my coworkers, and I can’t hang out with them 24/7.

5) Crime – While standing around on Saturday night at the parades, I saw two fights, including watching someone get punched in the face. Later that night, there was a shooting on Bourbon Street. Last week, a 30 year old woman was abducted from in front of her house, driven around the city for a couple of hours, beaten and raped by a 15 year old, 16 year old, and 18 year old. She lived about 10 blocks from me. The Man bought me a taser to go with my pepper spray. As much as I love living in this city, the ever-present threat of violence is getting to be a bit much for me.

6) Fitness – Starting Wednesday, I’m back to a very strict diet and an even more strict workout schedule. I’ve been seeing a personal trainer three days a week and going to a fitness boot camp on Saturdays, but as of Wednesday I’ll also be going to yoga five days a week on top of the rest, plus running at least 2 to 3 miles every other day. My trainer says that my body is made to be around 135 lbs, and I intend to pursue that and get at least half way there by summer. So there. :-)

Life Notes: Training, Working, Fashion

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It’s my lunch break, so I thought I’d take a few minutes to jot down some notes about what’s going on right now…

1) My life/work balance is not at all balanced. It’s more like a see-saw with a baby elephant on the “Work” end and nothing on the “Life” end. I’m eventually going to have to rework my schedule and get my shit together, but it’s too much for me right now. I just hope The Man doesn’t give up on me before that happens – he’s getting the shit end of the stick, since I’m working between 12 and 16 hours a day right now.

2) I need to call my grandparents. They’re old, and I haven’t talked to any of them in years. I also need to call my parents, whom I forgot to call on New Years and have managed to successfully avoid calling (out of total guilt) ever since. While we’re at it, let’s add about five friends that I talked to sometime last year. Let’s call them, too. And now you know why I never call anyone – once the flood gates open, I’ll never be done talking to people on the phone. I HATE the phone. Why doesn’t anyone email or text?

3) I’m wearing a really cute outfit today – most of it snagged at the Banana Republic outlet store at steep sale prices. I’ve got on these great dark jean trousers, a tomato red sweater, an off-white lacy camisole, metallic snake skin print shoes (vegan), the lovely vintage Omega watch The Man gave me for my birthday, and a cute little black hemp bracelet from World Market that has a gold and rhinestone snake charm on it. It’s one of those simple, but pulled-together, looks that make you feel like a million bucks all day long.

4) Today was my 2nd full personal training session with Eric Capers of Pro Fitness Trainers. He really kicked my butt, and my weaknesses were glaringly obvious, but I feel really good about how hard I worked out. He really pushes me to be better, and makes me want to do better to not look too stupid :-) Today I’m down to 155.8 lbs.

5) Part of that loss is because I’ve been very good about following my nutrition plan. Right now I’m eating a fresh edamame succotash and a cup of veggie soup, with a glass of unsweetened ginger mint tea. It feels decadent, but it’s so simple. It feels good to eat whole foods and stay away from animal products, so I really hope I can stick with it.

6) Really need to watch some documentaries this week! I’m falling behind. It would be nice to watch something else about food safety, and there’s a great one about American horror movies that I know I could get The Man to watch if I tried. Maybe if I work hard enough tonight I’ll be able to go home to no work at all. That would be lovely.

 

Body Body Body

So if you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, at some point (or probably more than just one point) you’ve seen me laugh about/complain/despair/bitch about/at least mention my weight. I want to be a strong, self-confident woman who just doesn’t give a damn about not being physically perfect, but let’s face it, I’m not. I’m fine with being crazy, opinionated, weird, witchy, and occasionally even a bit wild, but when it comes to flabby arms, I’m just not able to let it go.

In high school, many moons ago, I weighed in at 135 pounds, and was skinny fat – no muscles in my upper body, eating whatever I pleased, not really working out much other than half-heartedly running track in Sophomore and Junior years. Back then I wore JNCOs & midriff-baring “baby tees” with a belly chain when I went out. Yup, it was that kind of party. When I got to college, I gained 20 lbs within a year, just eating everything I could get my grubby little paws on and not exercising at all. A few people told me I looked better than ever, and since I wasn’t interested in changing my lifestyle, I chose to believe them. Fast forward to four years ago, when I tipped the scales at 168 and decided I need to change. Ever since, I’ve been losing and gaining, never getting back to 168 but also never making it below my college weight of 155. I keep trying, but nothing I’m doing on my own is working. My ability to push myself to achieve a fitness goal is just not there, and I’ve started and stopped fitness plans so many times now that I can’t even list them all. I can’t do it on my own, and I accept that I need help.

So I’m getting help. A month ago I was put on a new nutrition plan by an award-winning bodybuilder, and haven’t stuck to it religiously over the holidays, but I’m back now. When I first went on before the holidays, I dropped weight and felt better pretty quickly. Now, after a few days back on, I’m dropping weight again and feeling a lot more energetic than I felt for the better part of the last month. But that’s only half of the battle (OK, I’ve heard that it’s actually 80% of the battle, but you know what I mean).

That’s why I’ve started training with a personal trainer. Lucky me, I was just hired to handle the marketing for a well-known personal training company in town, Pro Fitness Trainers, headed up by the amazing Eric Capers (Side note: Yay – go me!). Part of me getting to know the company and really be part of the Pro Fitness Trainers team is to get in shape with them, see how they work, and hang out at their gym on Freret Street. So on Saturday, I went in early in the day for what Eric calls a “fitness assessment” (and I call “intro to torture”). Despite my fear, Eric was amazing and really cool as he pushed me to my physical limits to see where my muscles needed improvement. The answer: everywhere. After 30 minutes, I was beat, and he had a good idea of my fitness levels. Today I went in for a full training session and learned that the fitness assessment was child’s play in comparison to what’s really going to be happening for me in the gym from now on.

My body is in serious trouble, so I’m glad that I’m still young and going to Eric now before I fell apart too much more. I worked for an hour today, sweating buckets, heaving mightily to lift five pound weights, grunting like a sad little piglet during the second minute in plank position. While struggling with (hydraulically assisted) pull up #7, I asked “So have I EVER used these muscles?” Eric gamely replied, “Nope, doesn’t look like it.” He’s transformed hundreds of people over the course of his career, and inspired thousands more in his college football career and throughout his time in the gym, and his kindness and optimism are contagious. He told me today that in three months, he’d make me a brand new woman. I believe him, and can’t wait to start seeing results.

Right now I’m certainly already feeling results. I can barely walk – poor little ol’ me :-)